Loving With Letters – Celia

This case is both difficult to read, but also amazing.

It is a reminder that even that when dealing with Parental Alienation, False Allegations, and the Family Court, there is hope.

I met my (now) husband when I was 28.

He has three children from a previous marriage. Shortly after being married for one year he decided to file modification of custody papers to his ex-wife. He was tired of her constantly moving. Less than four hours after receiving the paperwork she called the Hillsborough County sheriff’s office and told them we had sexually molested the kids.

Her new Mother-in-law had used this excuse in the past with an ex-boyfriend. The sheriff’s office investigated the allegations and found them to be false after contacting my husband for his permission to have the kids checked out because his ex-wife would not give them permission. When the ex-wife found out that the case was dropped she then took it to the Pasco County sheriff’s office.

They contacted the Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office and found out the whole deal. They refused to pick it up and then the ex-wife decided to go to the Zephyrhills Police Department. This all happened within a space of eight months.

We have not had contact with a children since the papers were filed. We finally got a court date. The ex-wife’s new husband was sitting outside the courtroom across from me. He began yelling about how he couldn’t believe that we could do that sort of thing and take video of it. Since we weren’t biological family we weren’t allowed in the court room. My husband was given one hour a week supervised visitation at the courthouse.

The ex-wife did not like this.

She would tell the kids that if they went to see their dad that meant they didn’t love her anymore. Before that court date She filed a sexual battery injunction against me and my husband. We wound up going to court over that and the judge put in a stay because she wanted to see what she could do.

During our second court date for that the judge told my husband’s ex- wife that if it had been up to her she would be put underneath the jail and have her parental rights stripped. The only thing this judge could do though was put a letter of recommendation into our file to order the ex-wife to give us visitation back. That didn’t happen.

During this time we were going back and forth with court dates and filing paperwork. I found online information on Parental alienation syndrome. My husband’s ex-wife showed the classic case of Pas. Unfortunately at the time the State of Florida did not recognize this as being an actual thing. For six years we would go to court and during those six years I was filing contempt of court papers every other week. The judge we had for the injunction recommended that I do that every time we were supposed to see the kids and we’re allowed to.

About 4 years later my husband’s ex brother-in-law wound up getting our oldest son once or twice a month. He would call us up and let us know that he was there and we could come see him if we wanted to. Our son informed us that his mom had told him and his brothers that we had left the state of Florida because we didn’t want anything to do with them anymore. We got to see our oldest son a couple months like this.

One day my husband’s ex mother in law contacted us letting him know that her poor daughter was in the hospital. She had a seizure. (Truthfully she had almost died from an overdose). This was about six years into the whole ordeal. We went to see her and she asked for forgiveness and asked if we knew of a place she could rent. We happen to have a place right next door to us that was available. My husband rented it to her in lieu of Child Support.

She stayed there with our three boys and her two new kids from her new marriage. Then one day she just left. Our three kids came home from school and all of their mom’s stuff was gone. We were still going to court during this time. We had the three boys all summer and bought them everything they needed for the new school year. The day before school started their mom showed up at my house demanding that we give her kids back to her.

I told her no.

She hadn’t had anything to do with him in 3 months and I wasn’t just going to hand them over. This was in August and we finally got our final court date in September. My husband’s ex-wife didn’t show up to the court date and my husband asked if he could just change the agreement to 50/50. The judge told him there was no way she was going to do that and because she had also read up on Parental alienation syndrome she decided to award my husband full custody of his three kids.

The judge ordered his ex-wife to have a home study done and to take parenting classes before she was able to see the kids again. This was very difficult for me because the state of Florida doesn’t recognize step parents as having any rights. My marriage almost dissolved. We had the longest running custody battle in the history of the State of Florida and we also brought parental alienation syndrome to the Forefront. We were the first case to ever be recognized in Florida.

At the time there was only two or three cases in the United States that were actually recognized. We are now the number one. You can look it up as Monroe versus Monroe.

I never talk bad about my husband’s ex-wife in front of the kids. That was six years ago and now that they’re older they have read the Case Files and thank us for never giving up. I would recommend to anyone going through a custody battle or even having issues with a custodial parent to keep a journal. Take lots of pictures. This can be admitted into a court of law as your Personal Diary.

My husband and I also done this on our own. We didn’t have an attorney because we just couldn’t afford one at the time. We had an attorney for the sexual battery injunction and he was a good friend of my husband’s ex- wife’s attorney. We heard through the grapevine that the ex-wife’s attorney said he had never had a case where he was having his butt handed to him by two inbred hillbilly rednecks.

I’m writing all this just to give everyone hope. Don’t give up and even if things aren’t going your way right now eventually the truth will come out. Parental alienation syndrome is a real thing and it is detrimental to society. Read up on it and keep bringing it up in any court case. Make sure your judge reads it. We need to make this nationwide. We also need to make the courts recognize that step parents have rights too. If we can be investigated, then we should have a say in what happens in the court room.

If you have any questions you can contact me through my email celiamonroe@yahoo.com.

Celia Monroe

Zephyrhills, Florida

 

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Loving With Letters: Danny Draw Sawyer

I wish I could say I’m surprised, but I’m not.

This is a horrible story from one of our followers:

“As I sit here trying to find myself not even knowing just how lost I am, I look back over the last year of my 37 year life and realize just how much I have lost.

I was retired from the US Army in February of 2012 due to injuries I received while serving in Iraq. Last October, my wife of 9 ½ years, and the mother of our two children, comes to me and explains just how unhappy she is and that we both deserve to be happy.

She said that after a lot of thought she has decided that she wants a divorce.

I ask her if she was absolutely sure to which she replied yes. She asked me to move out of the very house that I built; one that was built around my disabilities.

The following week I packed a couple of bags and started renting a room from someone I found on Craigslist. I told her when I moved out that she could stay in the house for one year and I would pay all the bills and still give her money on top of that so she could find a job (she never worked during our marriage even though I asked her all the time to get a job) and get on her feet, and I did just that.

I paid all the bills and on top of that gave her between $1000 – $1200 a month. I guess she wanted more. Now almost a year later she has taken me to court once for child support and alimony. I thought for sure that our judicial system would take care of me during this process. I am not a drunk, I have never hit her, and I was always at home and feel that I am a great father to our children.

She never worked, she always stayed home. Now after going to court, I have been ordered to give her 73% of my disability income.

I cannot work now due to my disabilities so making more money is not an option. I have lost everything due to this. I have nothing of value left to sell.

I am not writing this to get pity from anyone. I am simply writing this to voice that this is the world that we live in. I did everything right. But yet the court still feels the need to punish me simply because I am the father and not the mother. How is this fair?

How have we, as a society, let it come to this? Not every man going through a divorce has done something wrong. Why should we be punished for the decisions of the woman?

Car – Repossessed, Furniture – Repossessed, 2800 sq. ft. house – In Foreclosure, every gun I owned sold for near nothing.

I make too much money for government assistance and now live day-to-day on bread and bologna, and have run out of bread. With the amount of money that the court is leaving me every month I can pay my rent or my car payment or buy food, but only one of those.

My power is about to be disconnected as well as my phone. Out of all the things I have lost, the thing that hurts me the most is losing the respect of my children.

Please repost this, I would like the world to know how good men are being treated in our courts.

Sincerely,

Danny Draw Sawyer”

 

Loving With Lettters – Glenn

Corrupt Family Courts.
Bradenton Herald Published my Story, Praise GOD
10 years 4500 pages 735 docket entries.
Case 2002DR3254 12 Circuit Court of Manatee County, Florida.
My reward for 10 years of effort NO CONTACT.
This is a death sentence for Parents in Family Court.
PLEASE, PLEASE post a comment for the record on the newspaper link.
I will never give up on my daughter and your comments will help her understand that Daddy never gave up on her.

Father’s Day tough on dads without visitation rights

As we all look forward to this Father’s Day, the best gift any woman could give to a father is the acknowledgment of the irreplaceable value men and fathers bring to a relationship, to children and what they afford the greater society. What an abject tragedy, what a horrific loss it is for any child to endure a life apart from their father.
The last 30-plus years have unfortunately not been kind to fathers and more importantly their children. It is today an unfortunate fact that of the approximate 70 million fathers in the U.S., 35 million are divorced. Of those 35 million fathers, as a result of a corrupt anti-family court system, approximately 84.4 percent have been relegated to the status of non-custodial parent.
Family courts are wrong;
I have not seen my child in over two years.
It is not fathers “abandoning” their children, it’s feminism, mothers and a biased family court system conspiring for financial gain and legal leverage to secure court orders denying fathers their rights to their children and children their rights to their father.
If you want fathers to act more like fathers, get government out of the way, stop policies that encourage extended court litigation, bogus restraining orders and willful violations of visitations by the custodial parent with no consequences by the courts.
As Always….FOLLOW THE MONEY
Glen Gibellina
Bradenton

Read more here: http://www.bradenton.com/2012/06/11/4069957/fathers-day-tough-on-dads-without.html#storylink=cpy

Loving With Letters – Matthew

I want to call attention to Matthew Landry’s post in recent post’s by other’s (see Dakota’s Page).

Matthew is Dakota’s daddy and my son. He and Dakota are the reason I became involved in the Parental Equal Rights cause.

Matthew is a very young father (19). He has been so hurt by the alienation of his baby as well as totally lost in how to even begin to deal with the legality of this complex issue.

He has been determined to fight for his child from the beginning and I am so proud to watch that determination as he painfully struggles to make some sense of it all.

We need to give more credit to our young men these days.

We as a society are so very quick to put them in the dead beat, irresponsible dad category.

However, our laws are setting them up for failure and pushing them to run and abandon out of fear and shame.

Matthew is one of the fortunate ones, he has a loving supportive family to encourage him to continue on and help him up when he falls.

There are countless others like Matt who don’t have that. They are counting on us for love, support and guidance in the minefield of family court.

May we all stand together in support of them and their children. After all, we are in truth one family, with God as our father!

Love To All,

Cathy Landry

*****

Hello my name is Matthew Jonathan Landry, and my son’s name is Dakota James.

This page is for him and every other father that is standing up for the rights to see their child.

First off, I want to give a special thanks to everyone that likes and supports this page (Dakota’s Page)  and all the other fathers that just wanna be with their child.

Next, I would like to take some time to talk to my little man because i haven’t had a chance:

“Hey little man I’m your daddy and I havent been able to see you yet, but I want you to know that even though you haven’t had the chance to be with me, I love you so very much and you’re the most important thing in my life and im going to do whatever it may take to be with you.

See one day me and mommy met and I thought it was the greatest thing that had ever happened to me.n I loved her and couldn’t wait to start a family with her.

So we started and we got you, and even though I loved your mother very much and wanted to be with her the rest of my life, it didn’t happen.

We had rough patches in our relationship, we let things fall us apart, and I hurt so much from it.

But I’m so happy that I made that choice because if I hadn’t, we
wouldn’t have had YOU,the greatest thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though I thought your mother was the greatest thing; it wasnt. It was you baby boy. I’m so so so very happy that we had you

I love you so very much Dakota.

I will never be able to give up. I’m going to stand up for you, Dakota. I’m standing here fighting with ever thing I have to be with you and be apart of your life.

Because the way I feel is I need you and you need me. We need each other to bein each others’ lives.

I love you Dakota James. You just have to be patient. I will be with you!

Love your Daddy – See you soon!”

Now I would like to take some time to say some things.

I have hurt so much through this situation.

It hurts me so much to know that I’m not with him and I ask myself things like, “Have I done something wrong?”

And the answer is NO.

I haven’t done anything to deserve it, and YES, I can be there for my son and take care of him.

Fathers keep fighting! You deserve to be a part of your child’s life .

STAND UP!!!!

Keep standing and saying, “I won’t let it break me and give up hope on being apart of your childs’ life.

Maybe it’s not for you but I will not, won’t, nor ever be able to
give up.

Don’t lose hope.  It’s there and always has been.

So, we stand together!!!!

We fight!!!!

And together, we will prevail!!!!

Matthew

Tennessee

Loving With Letters – Sandy

Hi, I am a mother not a father, but I support the cause in a major way.

Growing up my mother did not allow me to have a relationship with my father. He tried and tried to no avail.

She told so many lies, had men in and out of our home wanting them to be daddy and did everything in her power to cause my father pain.

I do social and court advocacy work and the things I see in the courts are sinful.

I have not spoken to my mother in years and will not.

Sincerely,

Sandy Scott

Tennessee

Loving With Letters – Jon

Thank you for “Liking” our page Parenting Rights Of Fathers. My name is Jon Dupree, the founder.
 
I began this page in hopes of getting support from not just our local community, but support from communities nation wide.
 
It’s my hope that other fathers dealing with unfair and un-equal treatment in Family Court can stand together and change family laws so we have equal and fair rights with respect to our children.
 
This is not an attempt to take rights away from mothers or fathers, but a way to allow both biological parents to have equal parenting rights.
 
My daughter was taken to Minnesota by her mother in 2009 due to the law stating, in simple terms, that if you’re not married and have children, the child must remain with the mother.
 
I’ve been legitimized as the father, but my daughter was taken to Minnesota while I was at work, and due to her being with her mother, there was nothing I could do to get my her back.
 
I’ve been told by lawyers that the law states that my child must remain with her mother because it obvious she gave birth and I did not.
 
This is not fair to fathers or children.
 
It’s obvious that women can not get pregnant without men, and therefore when DNA validation and acknowledgment has been established, whether married or not, both the mother and father should have equal rights.
 
My goal is to gain support to remove the laws that do not give equal and fair treatment to both parents; regardless of whether or not they’re married. My daughter’s mother and I remain civil with each other and remain in touch, and thankfully, and I do talk to my daughter often.
 
However because my daughter was taken without my knowing or even having a say in her going to Minnesota, I have not been able to afford to visit my her, and her mother will not allow her to visit me for fear that I will seek custody when I have possession of her.
 
Now because it has been over 2 yrs since I’ve last seen my daughter, I’ve been told I would need to have a court-appointed counselor bring my daughter and I together physically prior to me seeing her as father and child.
 
My daughter knows who I am and that’s what keeps me going to change these laws that are not fair or equal.
 
Thanks for your support and please help in gaining more support and ill do the same.
 
Jon