Loving With Letters – Matthew

I want to call attention to Matthew Landry’s post in recent post’s by other’s (see Dakota’s Page).

Matthew is Dakota’s daddy and my son. He and Dakota are the reason I became involved in the Parental Equal Rights cause.

Matthew is a very young father (19). He has been so hurt by the alienation of his baby as well as totally lost in how to even begin to deal with the legality of this complex issue.

He has been determined to fight for his child from the beginning and I am so proud to watch that determination as he painfully struggles to make some sense of it all.

We need to give more credit to our young men these days.

We as a society are so very quick to put them in the dead beat, irresponsible dad category.

However, our laws are setting them up for failure and pushing them to run and abandon out of fear and shame.

Matthew is one of the fortunate ones, he has a loving supportive family to encourage him to continue on and help him up when he falls.

There are countless others like Matt who don’t have that. They are counting on us for love, support and guidance in the minefield of family court.

May we all stand together in support of them and their children. After all, we are in truth one family, with God as our father!

Love To All,

Cathy Landry


Hello my name is Matthew Jonathan Landry, and my son’s name is Dakota James.

This page is for him and every other father that is standing up for the rights to see their child.

First off, I want to give a special thanks to everyone that likes and supports this page (Dakota’s Page)  and all the other fathers that just wanna be with their child.

Next, I would like to take some time to talk to my little man because i haven’t had a chance:

“Hey little man I’m your daddy and I havent been able to see you yet, but I want you to know that even though you haven’t had the chance to be with me, I love you so very much and you’re the most important thing in my life and im going to do whatever it may take to be with you.

See one day me and mommy met and I thought it was the greatest thing that had ever happened to me.n I loved her and couldn’t wait to start a family with her.

So we started and we got you, and even though I loved your mother very much and wanted to be with her the rest of my life, it didn’t happen.

We had rough patches in our relationship, we let things fall us apart, and I hurt so much from it.

But I’m so happy that I made that choice because if I hadn’t, we
wouldn’t have had YOU,the greatest thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though I thought your mother was the greatest thing; it wasnt. It was you baby boy. I’m so so so very happy that we had you

I love you so very much Dakota.

I will never be able to give up. I’m going to stand up for you, Dakota. I’m standing here fighting with ever thing I have to be with you and be apart of your life.

Because the way I feel is I need you and you need me. We need each other to bein each others’ lives.

I love you Dakota James. You just have to be patient. I will be with you!

Love your Daddy – See you soon!”

Now I would like to take some time to say some things.

I have hurt so much through this situation.

It hurts me so much to know that I’m not with him and I ask myself things like, “Have I done something wrong?”

And the answer is NO.

I haven’t done anything to deserve it, and YES, I can be there for my son and take care of him.

Fathers keep fighting! You deserve to be a part of your child’s life .


Keep standing and saying, “I won’t let it break me and give up hope on being apart of your childs’ life.

Maybe it’s not for you but I will not, won’t, nor ever be able to
give up.

Don’t lose hope.  It’s there and always has been.

So, we stand together!!!!

We fight!!!!

And together, we will prevail!!!!




Important Memo To Love and Iron Project Followers: 5/3/12

So we’ve analyzed the numbers, and it’s time to advance the Project.

After a month of promoting the Love and Iron concept and testing different strategies, we’ve decided to tighten-up our positioning, step on the gas, and really get things movin’.

Here’s What This Means For You:

We started this project with a mission of cooperative outreach championing for the empowerment, success, and happiness of parents and children.

Family Law Reform is one of our primary projects, and one that we intend to work hard to resolve as quickly as possible.  Because the sooner we end the abuses and exploitation of non-custodial parents along with the child-abusive behaviors of parental alienation, the better for everyone.

And to this end, we see our role as one of creating publicity, influencing public perception, assisting reform organizations, helping non-custodial parents in coming together, and if need be, finding an organization, cause, or individual who can best help them work through a Family Law system that is, for lack of a better term; remarkably disgusting.  

The “Jiggles McBouncy Scholarhip Initiative” is a longer-term and permanent project. 

We rolled it out right away, but truthfully, we didn’t expect it to generate much if any activity until our following gets substantially larger.

Never the less, we felt it was important to familiarize folks with the program right at the beginning so newcomers would have a clear understanding about the entirety of our presence and what we’re about.

And Lastly….

We’ve decided to develop the final phase of our macro strategy; which we’ve labeled The Graceful Influence Project.

Some of you have probably noticed we’ve been experimenting with various messaging strategies that involve motivational thoughts around the theme of cooperation, influence, and achievement. 

And actually, the statistical analysis of The Love and Iron Facebook Page validates that our most viral, most powerful messages are born out of strategies for personal leadership and accomplishment.


You’ll see several things going forward:

  • A slight re-positioning of our presence away from intense activism toward messaging that has the potential to reach and attract a broader audience.  In other words, when folks land on our page, they’ll see about 85% to 90% educational messaging; and 10% to 15% or so activism.  This will help us expand our base while preserving both the integrity and urgency of the core project of Family Law Reform.
  • We’re so delighted at the response we’ve gotten from our cooperative outreach, and now we’re going to focus more on helping each of you expand your influence and your following.
  • And lastly, we’ll be rolling out a blog series under the Graceful Influence label that will be focusing on showing you and your kids ways to develop and employ successful influence strategy for the purposes of personal and professional accomplishment.   

So basically, and in a nutshell:

  1. We’re going to reach past our existing community of already engaged activists to those who could really use some help, but don’t know where to find it.
  2. We’re going to be supplying extra resources to promote, publicize, and support organizations committed to empowering families and children.
  3. We know we’re NOT going to influence the values of those who have a lot to lose from Family Law reform, or, from those who simply don’t care about it.  So we’re adjusting our efforts to better engage a productive conversation with those folks who might not yet be comfortable with the intensity of our what you’re going through, but who are willing to stand-up for what’s reasonable and right. 
  4. And lastly, you’ll be seeing more programs and sub-projects designed to advance both the near-term and permanent objectives of the Project.

We’re here to assist you; individuals and organizations alike.

We belive children and parents need champions.

And we’re thankful you’re willing to let us help you.

Warmest Regards,