Parental alienation and the abusive treatment of Non-Custodial Parents has gotten way out of control; and it’s causing irreparable harm to both children and parents.
We ‘re thankful they’re lots of wonderful folks dedicated to responding to the unfairness of the Family Court at the local level – those whose primary focus is on helping you with the Family Court Legal process.
And organizations like the American Coalition For Father and Children are stepping-up for Family Court reform within State and Federal governments – they’re working hard on our behalf to affect Political Influence.
And then, of course, there are some really beautiful people who know exactly what you’re going through, because they’re right there with you – so they’ve set-up communities specifically to offer you the kind advice, encouragement, and support we all need to keep our heads high and our will fighting on.
The Family Court Industry wants you to feel like you’re alone – like you’re the only one struggling for the rights of yourself and your children – but you’re not – you just need to know where to look for help.
But First, Let’s Agree On What This Project Is NOT About:
- It’s NOT against Women
- It’s NOT against the mother as the primary parent
- It’s NOT against child support
- And, it’s NOT claiming we’re superior parents or people.
Still, anyone who’s been through a custody dispute in Family Court knows the scales of justice are blatantly self-interested; degrading non-custodial parents down the level of money-making income entitlements for custodians and the Family Court Industry.
And this needs to STOP.
Because the continued practice of treating non-custodial parents as lesser human beings and using children as money-making enterprises is unacceptable.
Family Law Reform: Mission and Statement of Position:
We believe the gift of parenting children is the single greatest blessing and experience an individual can enjoy in life. Therefore to us, parenting rights are not a “special rights” concern; they are a “human rights” concern.
Our current system of Family Law has devolved into one in which a whole host of Family Court Industry players are profiteering from the minimization or elimination of parenting time and rights for non-custodial parents.
Many custodial parents, lawyers, parenting plan evaluators, supervised parenting services, States, friends of the Court social workers, many Courts, and others; are making money by using children as an excuse to exploit non-custodial parents, causing irreparable harm to both children and their parents in the process.
We would like this to stop. More specifically, we are asking for five primary reforms to Family Law:
- The presumption of 50/50 custody and parenting rights during and after divorce. We are NOT asking for a REQUIREMENT of 50/50, because we still want parents to be able to decide for themselves what works best for them. However, in the event that case goes to trial, instead of having the NCP being forced to rise to a high standard to show why they should have time with their children, I believe it’s far healthier (for both parents and children) for the parent contesting this time to be required to rise to a high standard to show why the NCP should NOT have equal time with their children. And while this may dramatically hit the financial accounts of those who are using children for profit by creating or aggravating conditions of conflict, this reform will affect far healthier outcomes for families.
- I would like reforms to child support calculations. More specifically, an elimination of financial incentives for minimizing or eliminating a non-custodial parent’s time with their little ones. As it sits now, there are basically two pieces to the child support calculation: (1) An actual physical needs worksheet, and (2) A tax-free income redistribution; with the Court establishing the higher of the two as the child support order. I recognize that custodial parents may need some time to adjust after divorce, and I have no problems with alimony/maintenance. However, I would like the alimony portion of child support to be eliminated. If a CP wants to better their lifestyle, they can put the work into bettering themselves just like NCP’S are often admonished to do. Children are NOT tax-free income producing assets, and NCP’s are NOT indentured servants.
- Reforms to child support enforcement: If one wants to accomplish a goal, it helps establish good or helpful conditions to achieve that goal. Unfortunately, the Family Court has become accustomed to pathological and often draconian measures for enforcement in which the civil rights of NCP’s are systematically ignored or eliminated through administrative court procedures. If a person loses their job, or becomes ill or disabled, it makes no sense what so ever, to take away their driver’s license, vocational license, destroy their credit, throw them in jail, or force them into homelessness. How does this help to ensure the support gets caught-up? It doesn’t. It simply makes the problem worse and sets the non-custodial parent up for future, life-destroying failures. Truthfully, current regimes for enforcement that treat “deadbroke” parents as common criminals are completely inappropriate.
- Social Security Act, Title IV, Part D, Section 458 “Incentive Payments To States”: I have no problem, in theory, with states being rewarded for child support enforcement. However, I have a big problem with States profiting from it, and a REALLY big problem with the lack of resources available to NCP’s for visitation enforcement. For little or no cost, a CP can have the state pursue civil or criminal remedies for delinquent child support. However, an NCP in reality, must hire an attorney if his or her visitation orders are being ignored, and often, these orders are not enforced with anywhere near the same severity by the Court as they are with child support orders. And I’m confident this is happening in large part, due to the financial interests of those parties noted in paragraph four. Therefore, if there is going to be Federal incentives for the enforcement of Family Court orders, I want equal weighting and importance put the enforcement of visitation orders. Honestly, the message that money is more important than a parent’s relationship and the emotional well-being of children is remarkably disgusting. I simply can’t tolerate that kind of worldview.
- VAWA reform. I agree that victims of abuse and violence need the ability to feel safe in swiftly seeking the protection of the Justice system. However, fraudulent allegations of abuse made during Family Court are getting out of control. This is a gender-neutral problem, and it seems it now boils down to which party can launch this nuclear attack first. There are no remedies available to the victims of fraudulent allegations – none, and the damage these allegations cause to both children and parents is catastrophic. The American Bar Association loves to fall back on VAWA as its reasoning for opposing any kind of Family Law reform. However, I can’t help but wonder how much money attorneys and investigators are making from a law that allows someone to be accused of such a serious crime and presumed guilty of it with no credible evidence what-so-ever. Something needs to be done about this, right now.
In short, much of the current political and judicial rationalizing for the current structure of Family Law centers on the concept of what’s “in the best interests of the children”. However, what is becoming increasingly clear is that children are simply being used as a seemingly noble excuse to mask a greedier underlying motive that is causing significant and irreparable harm to parents and children alike.
We understand we can expect to receive significant resistance to our ideas for reform because those parties noted earlier have a great deal to lose when they take place.
However, We’re not concerned about them. We’re concerned about the health and well-being children and parents, and your position on this matter will affect our voting behavior going forward.
It’s NOT Right That…
- Children are used as a politically convenient excuse for profiteering by parents, states, courts, lawyers, and court-appointed social workers.
- The use of children and false allegations of abuse are enabled as nuclear weapons of parental alienation and emotional violence during custody disputes.
- The Family Court is mindfully engineered to set non-custodial parents up to fail.
- A person should be denied an equal and full parenting experience simply because they are a male.
- You can be thrown in jail, have your driver’s license revoked, and have your credit destroyed because you’ve been laid-off or injured.
- The enforcement of visitation rights is considered unimportant and burdensome to the Court.
- Custodial parents have access to government protection and enforcement, but non-custodial parents do not.
- The system provides financial incentives to numerous interested parties for minimizing the time spent with the non-custodial parent.
AND it’s NOT right that we continue to allow our children and our community to be treated with so little dignity and respect.
We’re human beings. We’re important to our children. We deserve humane and equal treatment. And most importantly, our children do not deserve to be used and damaged by self-serving individuals and institutions.